The Good Stuff

Tonight I went to bed and instead of turning on a show I grabbed the self-esteem workbook and started reading. I swear my kids can sense when I open a book and the girls ended up coming into be with me, but THE GOOD STUFF started coming out. I read to them about the goal to having an accurate measuring stick for ourselves and that we need to try and have a consistent positive feeling about ourselves.

I asked both girls what they liked about themselves. Hazel told us that she likes that she is Kind and I love that she chose something that is a choice for her. Poppy couldn't think of anything. I knew that might be the case, but it was still sad none the less. I see so many great things, but it doesn't matter if she doesn't see it. She actually cried about tumbling today. When someone gives her a pass or treats her differently she sees it as a negative. I told her I do the same thing, but perhaps it was only meant as a positive. Be flattered you are the only 9 year old in the advanced tumbling instead of feeling bad you can't do everything the big girls can. I need to be happy the font desk wants to discuss things with me. It's not that they don't think I know what I'm doing. Perhaps it is that I have given them trust that they feel their voice can be heard.

I told her how happy I was that she was crying and how great it is to feel. I told her what I do when I don't want to feel and she told me she eats when she is bored and we decided when she is bored it's because she doesn't feel either.

She eats when she is bored so need to keep her happy and occupied. Can do. She will come to kid's camp with me tomorrow. I think I will let her stay to whole time too. It was a good day. They were in my bed and we have a plan. Write something we like about ourselves each day on the board for everyone to see.

Win today - Also Gable hit the tball into the clouds so we win today.x